This is by Mary Southerland:
Friend to Friend
The heat was brutal. My back was killing me. I was exhausted from a nearly
sleepless night, and I had a pounding headache. Every muscle rebelled against
the long flights and relentless van rides it had taken to arrive at this rural
village in India. I longed for a relaxing, hot bath, but what I had was a
bucket of cold water and a plastic cup with which to bathe.
My outer appearance certainly denied my inner attitude. I plastered what I
thought must surely be a spiritual kind of smile on my face in an effort to
portray the mercy and love I wanted to share. My husband and I were on a 19-day
whirlwind trip to South Africa, India and Thailand to see the work our church
is doing in those areas. I really wanted to think and feel the right things,
but I could not seem to get past myself – a familiar struggle for me. Honestly,
all I wanted to do was head back inside and take a nap. Instead, I was sitting
before a crowd of over 200 people who had come to hear a message of hope.
Lepers came. Men, women and children of all ages with AIDS came, staring up
at me from haunting eyes that mirrored more pain and heartache than I will ever
know. A young mother who had just buried her baby wept quietly, comforted by
another woman with no fingers and toes, a victim of leprosy. An older man with
no feet made his way through the crowd in a crudely built cart pulled by
another leper and friend.
Oh, I have been on many mission trips over the years and seen a great deal
of poverty, but I had never seen more destitute and broken people or worse
living conditions. Cows, chickens, sheep and goats roamed the dirty, rugged
roads in front of thatched roof shacks these people called home. No water. No
electricity. Sickness and hunger a natural part of their day. I cried out to
the Father, "What in the world am I doing here, Lord? How can I possibly
help these people?" Then I saw him.
Slowly he made his way through the crowd. The man could not walk because he
had no legs. Only stubs remained where his hands had once been, but still he
came, swinging his mangled body forward on arms and elbows scarred by what must
have been a long battle with leprosy.
I thought surely he would stop at the edge of the crowd and rest, satisfied
to have simply made it in time for the meeting, but still he came. I could not
take my eyes off him as he inched his way toward me as if I had called his
name. Brilliant blue eyes met mine and seemed to ask, "Will you touch me?
Will you love me?" In that moment, my heart shattered, and I promptly fell
in love. I saw him as he really was - one of God's precious broken lambs -
loved, cherished, planned and wanted; created by God for God - just like me.
I suddenly reached out and enveloped his mangled body in a fierce hug.
I just had to.
I loved him and I had to do something about it.
As his blue eyes flashed in surprise, a childlike smile captured his face, and
he hugged me right back. In that moment, my life changed.
I have been in ministry forever. I have traveled across the United States
and the world, speaking for various conferences, retreats, women's events – you
name it. I have directed various women's ministries and been part of many
mission trips to dangerous countries. I have written books, articles and devotions
about loving the unlovable and touching the untouchable, but in a moment, in
the course of one hug, God dissected and scrutinized my spiritual authenticity
and integrity – and found it lacking. It was not only lacking in India, but in
my every day life and the ministry God has given me in the place I call home.
I had come to give hope and joy. I had come to love. I had come to love the
unlovable and touch the untouchables. Instead, I had come face-to-face with my
own desperate need of God's love, mercy and forgiveness in my own life. And I
am not alone.
Untouchables are everywhere – crippled by sin, broken and lonely,
spiritually destitute and emotionally desperate, facing a death sentence of
eternal separation from God. Others are men and women in ministry who have
crashed and burned in a sea of moral failure or human indictment. Friends and
family members stumble along in crudely made carts of greed and discontent.
Instead of reaching out to those who so desperately need to be reminded of and
to experience God's grace and mercy, we have relegated them to a place of
judgment with no hope of restoration. I can assure you that no such place
exists in the Kingdom or God. God is all about restoration and healing.
If we are brutally honest, there are times when we do not want to see the
untouchables. We do not want to touch them or get involved in their nasty
lives. We are weary and exhausted. After all, it takes a lot of energy to wear
the right mask for the right audience in the right place and at the right time.
Our hearts are scarred and callused from fighting the wrong enemy. All we
really want to do is slip into a numbing but deadly sleep, hoping that when we
wake, someone will have cleaned up the mess so we won't have to. I have been
clearly reminded that the old saying really is true. If there is no mess, there
is no ministry, and if there is no ministry, there is no mess.
I pray God uses us all to look for and reach out to those who seem to be
unlovable, and then ask God to use us to touch those broken people who wait,
longing for hope and healing.
Sometimes when we are hurting the best thing is to reach out and bless others.....